Princess Potty-Mouth

fckh8So today I was cruising my usual news and junky websites and I came across this video on FCKH8.com featuring young’s girls dropping the f-bomb in support of feminism.  For those who aren’t familiar with the FCKH8 campaign, viagra sales treat they are a for-profit T-shirt company promoting social change in LGBT equality, mind anti-racism, and anti-sexism.

I’ve written about my views towards feminism previously, but I have mixed feelings about this video.  I understand the central message, but I felt the aspects highlighted were presented too sarcastic and forceful for my taste.

Watch the video below and tell me what you think.  I would love to hear thoughts from my male and female followers.  Happy watching :)

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KqGBXswsSkU

Check Please!

first dateLadies and gentleman, best viagra diagnosis I have an age old question to ask: Who should pay on the first date?  

Personally, buy viagra rx I am a bit old school in the romance department.  I think the guy should pay for the initial few dates and then we can alternate if the relationship becomes more exclusive.  A little chivalry and romance goes a long way ;)

I would love to hear your thoughts. :)

Guys, You better pay on the first date

Nerd Alert: The Future of Early Cancer Detection

cancer 1By now you all have probably figured out that I’m a bit of a nerd; although, sildenafil ampoule a cool nerd ;) .  I love having the chance to learn and experience something new, ampoule especially when science and technology are involved.  Last night I did learn something new and it got my nerdy antennas buzzing: the possibility of early cancer detection.

Cancer is a silent killer.  The cells in our body mutate and multiply at an unhealthy rate, and then BAM-BAM, we experience the symptoms.  Sometimes, unfortunately, the symptoms come when it’s too late.  What would our world be like without cancer?  How can technology help to solve this problem?  Biomedical technology is continually participating in cutting edge research for drugs and procedures to eradicate cancer, but that’s only half the issue, what about early detection?  If we could detect cancer in it’s early stages, then theoretically, more people will be saved, right?

Well, Jorge Soto and his team are on that task!  They’ve developed a prototype that allows early cancer detection by using microRNAs.  MicroRNAs are the intermediate proteins in the conversion of DNA to RNA.  They contain much smaller and similar sequences than DNA, so it’s been difficult in the past to categorize them.
cancer 3Jorge Soto’s theory is that cancer cells use specific microRNA patterns to multiply; therefore, if we discover the specific patterns for certain cancer types then we can detect them earlier!  Even more amazing is the prototype he’s using to scan the microRNA proteins.  His team constructed a cylindrical device that holds the plastic wells containing the microRNAs and uses an iPod as a scanner to detect the proteins.  The device is cost-effective and so far quite reliable.  They’re been able to accurately sequence microRNA protein patterns for pancreatic, lung, breast, and hepatic cancer!  Wow – great minds, ingenuity, and technology at its finest! :)

This technology is still in infancy, but it’s on the right path.  The future is endless for Jorge Soto and his team – they’re on the path of discovering something so great and beneficial for medical science and countless lives.  I look forward to seeing what else they develop.

I would love to hear your thoughts. Happy reading :)

A True Friend is Hard to Find

friendship1We spend a lot of time discussing the ins and outs of romantic relationships, discount viagra site but what happens when a friendship ends?  Does it have the same affect?  My answer is YES, health especially if this is someone you considered a close friend.

Last night, a very close friend of mine decided to end our friendship for reasons that completely baffle me.  The reasons he gave were honestly quite stupid in my book; he chose to highlight only 2 points in our timeline as reasons to end our relationship, completely neglecting the years of communication and support we’ve given each other.  I know he’s going through some personal issues right now that affected his rash decision, but nonetheless, the breakup is still painful.  Right now he feels scared and alone; he’s forgetting that people do care about him.  I am quite saddened by this and had myself a good little cry, but I do not blame him.  I will give him the space he wants.  In the end I told him I’ll miss him and that I’ll be here if and when he wants to return.

friendship3All relationships require two people to start and continue.  All relationships require communication and support; they are not measured by convenience.  All relationships should be non-judgmental and empowering.  All relationships should offer compassion and insight.  True friendships should espouse all these characteristics as well.

Losing a true friend is just as hard as losing a lover – true friends carve a place in your heart that’s irreplaceable.  They are an extension of your family that helps form your inner circle to provide emotional support and stability.  Friendships can also be toxic just like romantic relationships, so still keep your eyes and ears open, but for the most part, true friends are hard to find.  When you do find a lasting friendship, put the time and dedication in.  The best thing you can offer is unconditional support, courage, love, and advice.  Treat your friends as you want to be treated.

To my friend that I lost:  When you’re ready, I’m here. :)

I would love to know your thoughts. Happy reading :)

 

Am I Ugly?

pretty3“Am I ugly?” – 3 seemingly innocent words that pack a huge punch.  Millions of adolescent girls, cialis usa cure and boys, cialis are posting this question on YouTube, prescription looking for affirmation from the outside world.  I find this extremely disheartening.  I’d ask “how did this happen”, but this has been rapidly in the making.

I watched another of my beloved TedTalks (I know, I’m obsessed ;) ) where Meaghan Ramsey discusses the impact of low body image and confidence on our adolescents.  Meaghan Ramsey is global director of the Dove Self-Esteem Project, and I must say, I absolutely love the Dove commercials because they show women in their purest forms – as themselves.

Our children and adolescents are facing an insurmountable battle right now – the battle between self-acceptance v. societal approval.  Adolescence is naturally an awkward period in a youngsters life: their bodies are changing, they’re caught between childhood and adulthood, they’re constantly wondering, “where do I fit in?”.  Being a teenager is more complex than ever before mostly due to the development of social media.  I’m not condemning social media as being negative – it’s allowed the world to connect on an even greater scale, but it does have it’s pitfalls.  pretty2One of the major pitfalls is the lack of privacy and constant reliance on the visual.  Adolescents now are being “trained” to value themselves based upon the number of likes and the quality of comments and selfies that present on their news feeds.  They’re viewing their physique as being the sole identifier of who they are.

How do we help our children and adolescents regain their confidence?

How do we show them they are beautiful, inside and out?

I’m extremely passionate about this issue and I hope to contribute to the dialogue with my future adolescent patients.  I think we need to have an open conversation with our adolescents:

Ask them how they view themselves: What do they think are their best attributes outside the physical?  What are their weaknesses, their strengths, and how can we make them stronger?

Openly ask them what they don’t like about themselves physically: Why? Offer reassurance that the world is filled with many different shapes and sizes; there is no correct appearance.

pretty 1Our children are the next generation.  We want them to be confident, successful, and empowered.  Let’s start the dialogue and help them win this battle.

I challenge all the adolescents out there: Look in the mirror and say everything you love about yourself.  Think about how that makes you feel and keep those ideals with you as you venture through.

I would love to hear your thoughts. Happy reading :)

 

 

 

Why We Need To Keep Chivalry Alive

Wonderful article by James Michael Sama on the importance of keeping chivalry alive. I’m a huge proponent of chilvary in a man, viagra buy tadalafil and yes, best cialis I am a feminist ;). Being chivalrous and a gentleman has become a lost art to the younger generations nowadays; often seen as unnecessary. I am a 28 year-old woman and I find nothing sexier than a man who knows how to be a gentleman.  It’s not centered around demeaning women or making them appear as weak; chivalry is about showing respect and romance towards your lady love.  Ladies, why wouldn’t we want respect and courtesy from men; after all, wouldn’t they want the same from us?  Chivalry is not only reserved for women, but demonstrates a man’s ability to show universal respect to men and women alike. It displays the depth of a man’s character.  Sometimes, a bit of the old fashioned is a good thing ;) :)

I would love to hear your thoughts. Happy reading :)

Use Your Words, Not Your Fists

domestic violence 5 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, viagra buy viagra sale and with recent reports in the news about such cases, cialis generic this topic weighs heavily on my heart.  I finally found the words to express my thoughts.  In America, we inherently have a “victim blaming” mentality when it comes to accusations about domestic violence.  We don’t shout at them and say they did anything wrong, but we “blame” them for staying.  We look at them as weak for “not standing up for themselves” or taking the initiative to start a new life.  Men, women, and children are all potential victims to this fate and are entitled to the support and love they heavily need.  I’ll admit – I was part of that “blaming” culture because I never wanted to see any man, woman, or child in this position, but after my own incident, I realized why it’s hard to leave.

Let me tell you a story…

About 4.5 years ago I began dating a fellow classmate who seemed to fit my “type” (anyone who knows me, knows that I like my ‘cool nerds’).  He was highly intelligent, witty, charismatic, made me laugh immensely, romantic, came from a good family and appeared to be an overall “good guy”.  The first 3 months of our relationship was a typical honeymoon phase, but afterwards, he seemed different.  It started out small, like constantly harboring on the little things about me, making everything seem like it was my fault, and being downright verbally abusive at times.  I know at this point anyone would say to me, “Danielle, you should’ve left right then”, and you’re probably right, I should’ve but when you constantly hear such negativity and ridiculousness, unfortunately you start believing it – no matter how strong you are.  domestic violence 4This is how the abuse cycle starts…and then it gets bigger.  I remember the first time he got physical with me: we were coming back to my apartment after class and I said something loudly that he apparently didn’t like.  When we got into the elevator, he shoved me so hard that my back slammed into the bar and then repeatedly did it in the apartment. My fight-flight instincts kicked in to defend myself and I shoved him back. I was in complete, utter shock that a man would ever lay his hands on me.  A few weeks later he came home drunk from a party and because I didn’t want to have drunken sex he pulled a knife on me – luckily I grabbed it from him.  The last time he placed his hands on me was after an argument.  He punched my chest with the heel of his hand over both breasts – I took pictures that night to keep as evidence. What did I do to deserve such treatment?

I should have left, you’re right, but I was afraid.  I was afraid he would enact on his promises to hurt me.  I was far away from my family and didn’t know what to do.  I felt alone – but I wasn’t.  I’m very fortunate to have a perceptive mother who knows that when I go abnormally silent, something is wrong, and something was indeed very wrong.  I may not say it enough, but I am thankful for the family that I have.  Without their undying support at that time, I would not be where I am now :)   My mother flew to where I was to help me and after I got home, I slowly started to heal.  I blamed myself for awhile, thinking that I was smarter than that for being in that sort of relationship and not leaving.  I actively sought a domestic violence counselor and learned about how this pattern manifests. It’s all about control and ego; the feeling that they can mentally, emotionally, and physically dominate someone. I realized it wasn’t me, it was him. I was stronger than I thought.

domestic abuse1My story is minute compared to those who have endured domestic violence their whole lives, but I would like to say to them: You are stronger than you realize. You may feel helpless or think it’s “love”, but you’re worth a million times more than what you’re receiving.

Sometimes my friends ask me how we should stop domestic violence.  I don’t believe there is a clear answer to that question because there’s many factors to it, but here are some of my ideas:

Education – Education is power.  Part of the reason we blame victims is because we do not understand the psychology of abuse and nor do we believe that it’s entirely real.  It is very real.  It causes immense emotional, psychological, and physical damage to anyone it touches.

Cultural attitude – First, statistics show that minorities have a higher percentage of domestic violence.  There seems to be an ambivalence to it because “that’s just how we do things”, which isn’t necessarily correct.  Secondly, we assume the victim is usually a child or woman, but men are also victimized. They deserve the same support as any victim of domestic violence.

Support and compassion – We all have an inner circle that we rely on for emotional support. It’s extremely, extremely important for those that are abused to have a security network. Unfortunately being in a violent relationship is isolating; the abuser wants you to feel alone and places you in that position.  Family and friends: show them you’re there to give endless support, love, and advice. I understand if you may get frustrated with them for not leaving, but eventually they will, they will.  Never give up on them.

domestic violence 3Communication – This goes out to those currently facing domestic violence. I am naturally a private person myself, especially when it comes to my relationships. I like trying to resolve the issue myself before asking for advice, but sometimes this isn’t always the correct method. I know this is easier said than done, but try communicating with loved ones about what you’re experiencing. They won’t know unless you tell them.

The cycle of abuse often starts slow and unassuming, but it quickly progresses. It stops with you, with us. Let’s start today so no man, woman, or child has to face this alone.

I would love to hear your thoughts. Happy reading :)