Fall in love all over again…with YOURSELF!

i love meWhat is it about being alone that makes some of us so uncomfortable?  I know some may thrive on independence and self-reliance, cialis medical but most of us enjoy the emotional security that others provide, and that’s completely understandable.  We’re wired to socialize, to be wanted, to connect with others, and when this is not achieved, we become anxious.  We begin thinking there’s “something wrong” with us, when in fact, everything could be just fine.  Unfortunately, this anxiety of being alone may drive us towards problematic situations such as  serial monogamy, entertaining unhealthy relationships of any sorts, or forgetting who we are as an individual.

With that said, I propose doing something completely radical and out of the ordinary…fall in love with yourself all over again! I’m not talking about staring at your reflection in a mirror like Narcissus from Greek mythology and say multiple times, “I love you. You’re beautiful” (no, no no…that’s just weird! :) ); I’m suggesting spending quality time with me, myself, and I to rediscover who you are and rebuild that comforkeep calm bc i love metability with yourself. 

In the medical world we call this “exposure therapy”, but it’s not nearly as daunting as it sounds.  You may initially experience some anxiety brewing, but I assure you, that’s a normal part of venturing into activities alone. I would suggest to start slow with a stroll in a park or going to a museum since people are still in the vicinity and then gradually progress to going to the movies or eating a meal alone.  During these times of solitude, take a few mental notes of what you’re experiencing:

  • Is there anything new you’re discovering about yourself?
  • What about this moment are you particularly enjoying?
  • What thoughts are coming to your mind?
  • What are feeling at this moment?

This exercise is not intended for you to practice becoming a hermit – life is too enjoyable to be locked away.  It’s meant for us to recharge and realize that it’s ok to enjoy the company of yourself, as well as, a group of friends.  So go out there and have fun with me, myself, and I – you won’t regret it!

So…who wants to get gelato now? (just kidding :) )

Friendship under Fire

The evolution of friendships can be tricky waters to travel.  All relationships will change at some point; it’s brokenfriendshipperfectly normal.  We, buy cialis sovaldi as people, cialis sales stuff are constantly evolving, developing new interests and outlooks on life, but what happens when something abruptly divides your friendship?  How are we supposed to react?

So, what do we do?  Do we stay and fight for the friendship or let it burn-out?

Well, we should start by asking ourselves these questions:

  • How much does this relationship mean to you?
  • Are you willing to accept responsibility if you committed any wrong-doings?
  • Can you simply say “I’m sorry”?

Once you’ve answered these questions you can either stop at this point or continue to the most important part…the dreaded heart-heart conversation!  If you decide to have the “talk”, here are some suggestions to set the mood:

Take initiative: Show yochangeur friend that your relationship is important by stating that you “want to talk”.  Don’t wait too long, take initiative immediately.

  • Choose a public place: Have the conversation outside.  Go get coffee, ice cream, or lunch.  Having conversations in public places will reduce the tension that may be already present.
  • Allow each party to explain their views: It’s extremely important for both sides to state their concerns.  Both parties may have a different perception about what happened and we cannot rely on our own assumptions.
  • Do not be passive – aggressive: It may initially be easy to approach the conversation in a passive-aggressive manner because both parties may be hurting, but I’ve learned from my experiences that this will not be productive.  It will only pro-long any resentment and hurt feelings.

Lastly, if both parties decide to go different ways after the conversation, just know that it’s perfectly OK.  It’s always difficult to lose a friendship, but give it all you got and don’t go down without a fight!